I agree that this is a quirk. It works in reverse as well where someone doesn't join your game but it locks me up and I have to reboot. What do you mean by you are charged a game credit if you wait it out?

When you play people that you enjoy playing ask if they want to be on your friend's list. Then when they come online you will see them and they will see you.

@anexparrot Not exactly correct. If you select all they will all exchange. You have to put back what you want to keep as opposed to deselecting what you don't want. I learned this the hard way!